I would have a hard time recommending this to anyone interested in attachment parenting who might not have an easy going child who naturally likes to please, as it sets them up for lots of doubt and wondering what they are doing wrong. Instead, our children develop dependent relationships with peers that are too immature to offer them the wisdom, guidance, and most importantly, the unconditional love and acceptance that their parents should be providing them with. The major one is that I disagree with the premise that peers are the reason for kids turning away from their parents. Notice to Internet Explorer users Server security: Please note Internet Explorer users with versions 9 and 10 now need to enable TLS 1.

It is very eye opening to the cultural shift that has happened over the last 70 years: peers have become the main attachment figures for many children and teens rather than parents and other adults which has lead, among many things, to children not really knowing who they are, having the inability to be vulnerable or to take risks or to stand out in a crowd, and leaving them with very few tools for meaningful connection with others. Na, gal skirta pabudinti tiem, kurie nenori tikėti, bet ar jie skaitys apie 200 puslapių, kad juos įtikintų?Not because it was hard to read or to understand, but because it brought to light things I felt were wrong in my parenting and it was emotional and overwhelming to be woken up in this way. If you considered yourself an "attachment" style parent when your child was a baby, this philosophy is a perfect extension of that. Collect ’ your children: Spend time with them when they wake up, when they come in from school, at family meals, when they go to bed.

We do not welcome the work of attachment when it is separation we crave, whether for purposes of work, school, sex, sanity, or sleep. Classroom sizes are too big, parents are too busy with work or life stresses or only one parent is present, families are often isolated from extended family that used to have such a large role in raising children, and adults that children can develop meaningful relationships with are few and far between. I discovered the attachment parenting movement through this book, from there I started looking into homeschooling and so on. By completing your purchase, you agree to Audible's Conditions of Use and authorise Audible to charge your designated card or any other card on file.

If kids rebel, it is not because parents micro-manage them, it is because the forsaken peer orientation. The main idea of the book (at least in it seemed to me) was that there is something wrong with "kids these days" and their attachment to their peers is to blame. I already know that its one of the most influential parenting books I've ever read and has been the guiding force for many of our family decisions. It really has made me think a lot about my own life, my own parenting, and did make me notice a lot of the things that did go right.