Communion: The Female Search for Love: 2 (Love Song to the Nation, 2)

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Aber genau diesen Aussagen konnte ich nicht zustimmen, sie nicht teilen, mich nicht mit ihnen identifizieren. Many of us feel better about aging because the old scripts that told us life ends at thirty or forty, that we turn into sexless zombies who bitch bitch bitch all the time and make everyone around us miserable were thrown away. I had the same critique of Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good, in that I think that book needed a more nuanced discussion of the practice of BDSM.

i love how she wrapped the book up by talking about the importance of all love - self love, romantic friendships, and romantic love and how we need all of them to live a fulfilled life, and that giving and receiving love from yourself and close friends is what enriches romantic relationships. hooks says that it is not possible to have love and domination at the same time; we only really love in relationships that honor freedom and equality. Daddy issues" and "you can't love anyone else until you love yourself" are all ugly concepts that rear their heads throughout the course of this book. kadınların okurken eğitim, kültür, birikim seviyesi çok önemli olmadan anlayabileceği kitaplar yazmaya çalışıyor ki kitaplarında yer yer kendisinin de şikayetlendiği "teoride iyiydi güzeldi, yaşarken hiç öyle olmadı, kimse feminist pratiğin günlük hayatta nasıl uygulanacağından bahsetmedi" minvalinde bahsettiği kısımları var. In reality, many people in marriages and longtime partnerships are not sexual; behind closed doors their relationships may be similar to, if not the same as, romantic friendships.

Hooks commands the attention of readers with language that forces them to consider their ideologies in comparison with what is presented in the book. And yet, despite “love” being integral to this whole book and all her ideas, bell hooks never defines what she means by love. Another example: “Before it was cool to simply announce one’s feminism…” Um, bell, it’s still not “cool” to “announce one’s feminism.

Her emphasis with this book is to draw to attention the redemptive and transformative place of love, its power in women’s lives. Celebrated as one of our nation's leading public intellectual by The Atlantic Monthly, as well as one of Utne Reader's 100 Visionaries Who Could Change Your Life, she is a charismatic speaker who divides her time among teaching, writing, and lecturing around the world. She published over thirty books and numerous scholarly and mainstream articles, appeared in several documentary films and participated in various public lectures. Ich bin recht unvoreingenommen an dieses Buch gegangen, da es für mich das erste Buch von bell hooks war. It takes courage for women to challenge the seduction of domination, the making of Love synonymous with erotic conflict between the powerful and the powerless.In chapter three, Looking for love, finding freedom, she makes a case that “ men who oppressed women did not do so because they acted simply from the space of free will; but they were in their own way agents of a system they had not put in place. While I’m sure that’s often true on an individual level, she doesn’t mention how gay men can also be cruelly (or unintentionally) misogynistic and sexist just like everyone else in the world; she seems to be under the impression that they are exempt from that. pg, 99) Most women, according to Hooks, collude with patriarchial norms to inflict verbal shaming and humiliation. Maybe what I’m asking would make it “too academic” or “boring” for the average reader, and it’s true that I usually know what she’s getting at, but she sacrifices accuracy and clarity for concise and sometimes glib sentences or paragraphs. There really is so much power and satisfaction in self love and it bleeds into every aspect of your life.

Otra muy buena es cuando explica que su pareja debe tener muy claro que si ella no quiere tener relaciones sexuales, incluso durante meses, está en su derecho. This book is a must for anyone who has ever found it difficult dealing with a man who doesn't express his emotions, and for anyone who hates 'Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars' type thinking! Celebrated as one of our nation's leading public intellectual by The Atlantic Monthly, as well as one of Utne Reader's "100 Visionaries Who Could Change Your Life," she is a charismatic speaker who divides her time among teaching, writing, and lecturing around the world. ok my 17 year old self feels a lil guilty giving 2 stars to bell hooks, an author who was so formative in developing my feminist consciousness.

bell hooks invita a que las mujeres quebremos y extingamos el patriarcado en nuestras vidas a través de la reconstrucción del amor y el replanteamiento de sus significados dañinos. There’s so much here and during my slow read of this book, I found myself over and over again nodding my head in agreement regarding the concepts surrounding the ways that patriarchy and base-level feminism has shaped my life and the lives of people I know. This misinformation about the nature of love has helped to further the politics of domination, particularly male domination of women.

I'm a big proponent of BDSM, and often find myself annoyed at the negative tone almost everything I read takes toward it. For some reason, it's associated with having "issues," and I fucking hate that, because in actuality it's one of the most healing practices out there, and one of the safest environments in which to explore power dynamics and kinks.

And I’m sure bell hooks herself would disagree with this attitude, and she did briefly mention that lesbian relationships can lack meaningful love, but I still came away with the impression of “gay people are magic! Her guileless defiance in exploring her identity through books; “ I could and would have it all: my ideas, books, writing and love. And while most of the platitudes held true for me personally, I don't expect they'll hold true for all women. The author also presents the possibility of charity being creative by suggesting exploration of other relationships that delineate from the traditional intimacy between a man and woman.